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I’ve been mulling over the value of long term relationships, as my husband and I were approaching our 50th wedding anniversary early in May. Many of our generation have divorced, had multiple marriages, many married later, or not at all, some sadly have even lost their long term partner to death, so a Golden Anniversary feels like we are triply blessed… yet, why do I feel like questioning the value of spending one’s whole life with one person? This wonderful heart to heart with my dear Mary Magdalen, during one of our channeling sessions, put it all in perspective for me, and I am deeply grateful. Enjoy the channeling…

(This illustration is from a little calendar on my desk given to me by a sweet old friend I’ve known since high school)

Jennifer:  It’s very timely for me, this idea of the value of the long term relationship.  It seems like there are costs as well as benefits, and I’ve been kind of chafing a little bit at the idea of adjusting to certain limitations [such as aging], when in fact I’m beginning to feel more and more unlimited, and I have the desire to feel like I am being absolutely in integrity with my soul’s purpose and not with the expectations of society as to how long relationships should last. I’m just interested in hearing more about relationships and maybe my friends here have questions too. I’m feeling Mary, Mary Magdalene, “Maggie”, my Dear one. 

Mary Magdalen: Thank you, Beloved ones. Yes, I am here. I am very interested in this topic. The topic of the value of relationships, the connections between each of you… 

You know you have unlimited connections between all expressions of the Divine Father and Divine Mother. You will feel these connections at different times and sometimes many, simultaneously, and as you become more and more comfortable with your own limitless-ness as a Being incarnated, you will become aware of the variety and multiplicity of connections on many levels, with one another, with many in your world, with students, potential and long ago, nowadays, with what is happening within your extended family, what is happening within your group of friends, what is happening within your circle of those who are advancing, growing, developing, evolving each day into their mastery -which we have mentioned before, is this group. 

We want to set your mind at rest in the sense that you do not need to concern yourself that you have to limit yourself to anything other than the truth of your experience. And as long as you can maintain the truth of your experience within your primary household, then this relationship will be fed, this relationship will be honored. It is important that you be able to express the truth of your experience— your feelings, your evolving understandings— and to share that to the extent that the other is willing. 

It is fine if your beloved is not your major confidant about spiritual things because there certainly are enough points of connection and enough ways in which you inspire one another and touch one another’s hearts. And that is the important thing. The important thing is that you feel nurtured in your relationship, that you are not the only one doing the nurturing, that there be an infinity loop between you and the heart of anyone who you are going to dedicate a great deal of your life to — and have—  that there be this infinity loop of giving and receiving. 

And sometimes you are the leader and you’re the teacher and sometimes your beloved is actually showing you some things- much to your surprise. So you see, a balance. A relationship is valuable in as long as it continues to be a source of encouragement, support, comfort, companionship, inspiration—there are so many aspects to a good relationship. 

And you do not have to think that your relationship is perfect. There may be areas in which you do not completely coincide and this is perfectly fine. You are not missing anything, my Dear. You have had many lifetimes where you have had much shorter relationships and so, give yourself the knowing that this is the lifetime in which you chose one long and thoroughly valuable relationship. Receive that gift. Hear your own truth. I’m speaking your truth, my Dear. 

Are there any other questions about long relationships? Or relationships in general?

Teammate 1: As you were talking, it occurred to me this whole notion that our chosen other has to think like we do and have the same interest that we do is completely false, in that it’s actually the differences between our interests that make us more complete as a whole. Is that true? 

Mary M: Very well said. Yes, indeed, it is true. It is actually more in the nature of friendship where one will find a complete coinciding of interests. Say you have a bowling buddy, someone you enjoy bowling with and you look forward to your Friday nights -or whatever it is- and you love those friends, because they enjoy what you enjoy. That is fine, but that’s not your primary relationship. 

It is very good for there to be a a real difference, a significant difference in your approach to life, if you’re going to continue to spur each other into new areas of understanding. 

Teammate 1: Yes, thank you. 

Mary M: Yes. And [Teammate 2] ?

Teammate 2: … I was just wondering for my relationship. We are very different. He’s not on the spiritual path although he accepts me, which is the love, right? And so when we come into this Earth, I mean, we have a choice though too, right? It’s a choice. I mean, I’m very happy, but I was just wondering, like, how much of it is a choice and how much it is we come into this world, this plane, this earth, at this time, together? You know, I was just wondering what the differences, the nuances are; I guess it just depends. 

Mary M: Well, it is it is a longer topic, perhaps, than we have time for today. But I would say you are well aware of the choices that you will be coming to within your life. Your friend A and your friend B and your friend C have all said, “Oh yes, I’ll be in a relationship with you.” And then, when it comes time, A may feel a little better than B, or C may, in fact, be the most comfortable. And this is why many young people go through, or later in life if one happens to be single, you go through a period of “Should it be this person or should it be that person that I build my nest with?” you see, “that I choose to be with most of the time.” 

It doesn’t mean that’s the only love possible in life for you.  Love is always possible, but you have planned this rather thoroughly and carefully, ahead of time, with total understanding on everyone’s part, that whatever works out will be fine. 

Teammate 2: Right. thank you

When you feel finished with a relationship, be true to yourself, and honor that. This one keeps asking herself “Well, isn’t this long enough? It doesn’t feel like it’s finished.”  So it continues and it continues, until it feels finished. And when it is very finished, you know it, because you know you’re not in alignment with yourself anymore. You’re not in integrity with yourself. But as long as your relationship is thriving, you are learning, you are growing and you are stretching yourselves in your ability to communicate and support one another, the relationship is of great value. 

Yes, I’d be happy to talk about this more another time. I do fancy myself somewhat of an expert in the field of relationships…(chuckle). It has been my great delight to be talking with you today.

Jennifer Donaldson Channeling Mary Magdalen   5/3/2024